Getting raised by coincidence!

Coincidence! I was told by many psychology teachers that there are factors that form and develop the child’s personality, morals and values. These features include genetic, family, environmental and social aspects. So how on earth does it come by coincidence?

Now let’s examine this statement. I find it a fact that every family screw up when raising a child and most of them aren’t fast learners.

Parents fail to raise their children because they can never put themselves in their shoes. It has a lot to do with inability to trust and believe a younger person at home. And it also has to do with inner fear that their child would one day make dreadful mistakes!

Some situations force children to build a new family out of friends from the outer world “outside home’. And you can never know which sorts of friends will your child meet and deal with. Some may be very positive and have a great impact, while others might drag him down to all wrong doings.  The choice made by the youngster relies much on the degree of his consciousness, innocence and relation with church and God.

If we study both cases well, we will find that social and environmental factors have great influence on the person and it highly develops the personality of any person. It might change some genetic characteristics and shape them like clay. A child may learn to give everything he posses and free himself, while both of his parents are misers. If caregivers are not showing respect and tenderness, the child may separate himself from the home, and shape a new attitude for interests. Some of which follow some of their friend’s sick attitude for they can’t finds friends with mutual interests and goals.

Either ways, the person will always experience good and bad times. A successful person who developed himself and challenged tribulations will always feel proud yet his parents will get good credit in front of the society who would automatically think that the house progress was very successful. While a negative person with brutal doings would undergo happiness for taking revenge of his parents neglect. Yet that same person took revenge of himself before revenging the other person, which is the main motive behind committing suicide.

To sum up, genetic and family influences can play a major role if the infant’s dominant place is home. In other words, if the child’s social life is limited. While environmental and societal factors can dominate and contour the personality if the infant himself exposed himself to these changes with all willingness.